Domestic violence or abuse is used by someone to control or obtain power over another person. Common misconceptions is thinking that it is only violent behaviour, however this is not the case.

What is domestic abuse?

It can include physical, sexual, psychological, verbal, emotional and financial abuse. There are many different forms including:

  • sexual violence
  • human trafficking and modern slavery
  • forced marriage
  • female genital mutilation
  • and so-called ‘honour’ based violence.

Anyone who changes their behaviour because they are frightened of how their partner or someone familiar will react, they are being abused.

Call the National Domestic Violence Helpline number on 0808 2000 247



Find support

Recognise the signs

Does your partner, ex-partner or anyone in your household:

Emotional abuse

  • belittle you, or put you down
  • blame you for the abuse or arguments
  • deny that abuse is happening, or play it down
  • disconnect you from your friends and family
  • stop you from going out and isolate you
  • make unreasonable demands for your attention
  • accuse you of flirting or being unfaithful
  • tell you how to dress, who to see, where to go and what to think

Threats and intimidation

  • threaten to hurt or kill you
  • destroy your belongings
  • stand over you or invade your personal space
  • threaten to kill themselves or family
  • read your emails, texts or letters
  • harass or follow you

Financial abuse 

  • Control your money or prevent you from buying essentials
  • Not allowing you to work or attend training 
  • Hide bills
  • Pay benefits to their own account
  • Make large financial decisions without your knowledge

Physical abuse

  • slap, hit or punch
  • push or shove you
  • bite or kick you
  • burn you
  • choke you or hold you down
  • throw things

Sexual abuse

  • touch you in a way you don’t want to be touched
  • make unwanted sexual demands
  • hurt you during sex
  • pressure you to have unsafe sex – for example, not using a condom
  • pressure you to have sex
  • unwanted pregnancy
  • deny you affection

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We have been providing accommodation, support and outreach services for over 25 years.

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